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		<title>Behind The Scenes Of The Greg In Hollywood Launch</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 04:57:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My good friend Greg Hernandez, a veteran Hollywood reporter, was laid off from his job at the Daily News last Monday. In the week since, it&#8217;s a been an all-hands-on-deck rush to get him established on his new blog, now up at Greg In Hollywood. Below, a look at how it all came together, with [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>My good friend Greg Hernandez, a veteran Hollywood reporter, was laid off from his job at the Daily News last Monday. In the week since, it&#8217;s a been an all-hands-on-deck rush to get him established on his new blog, now up at <a href="http://greginhollywood.com/">Greg In Hollywood</a>. Below, a look at how it all came together, with a focus on the many details you have to consider when getting a new blog (or web site) up and running.</p>
<p>By the way, Greg has his own account of the launch at <a href="http://greginhollywood.com/from-layoff-to-kick-off-in-seven-days-12">From layoff to kick-off in seven days</a>. Be sure to check that out. My look below is more from a technical nature.</p>
<p>The first step was determining his domain name. Greg had founded the <a href="http://www.insidesocal.com/outinhollywood/">Out In Hollywood</a> blog for the Daily News. He kind of wanted to carry over that name and was considering &#8220;Out In Hollywood Blog,&#8221; since that domain name was available. I thought he should go for something different and turned to Google results to make my point.</p>
<p>In a search for <a href="http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&amp;q=out+in+hollywood">out in hollywood</a>, his old blog ranks first followed second by the Out In Hollywood social site. Did he really want to be a third site fighting it out in those results?</p>
<p>After further thought, Greg came up with &#8220;Greg In Hollywood.&#8221; A great choice, since his blog is so much about Greg personally talking with actors, directors, producers and others in the entertainment industry. A great choice also because people searching for him weren&#8217;t going to be confused about other exisiting brands. In fact, his placeholder page went up on Friday, and by Sunday night, it was ranking third for <a href="http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&amp;q=greg+in+hollywood&amp;btnG=Search">greg in hollywood</a>, behind two YouTube videos.</p>
<p>Next, web hosting. That was easy. <a href="http://tigertech.net/">Tiger Tech</a>. My friend Rob Mathews runs it; my other friend Ken Spreitzer oversees tech issues. If having friends there wasn&#8217;t enough &#8212; hey, low cost ($80 per year!). It&#8217;s a wonderful service and able to withstand Digg traffic and more. <a href="http://searchengineland.com/">Search Engine Land</a> has run for years on it.</p>
<p>Blog software? We went with <a href="http://wordpress.org/">WordPress</a>, because it&#8217;s so common and easy to install. I mean really easy. Ken pointed me at Tiger Tech&#8217;s help instructions, and I had WordPress installed in about 15 minutes. No need to use a shell program. Nothing but FTP and a web browser.</p>
<p>With the software up, we needed a design. I&#8217;d twittered that we were looking for someone who could fast tweak to an existing template. We really just wanted something to get Greg along for the time being, until he had some content established and more time to work out a long-term design.</p>
<p>Within hours, we heard from <a href="http://thenitenote.com/">Kate Cohen</a>, a long-time friend of both of ours from our <a href="../../081027-223710.html">newspaper days</a> in Orange County during the 1990s. Among other things, she runs a kick-ass hyperlocal site called the <a href="http://sealbeachdaily.com/">Seal Beach Daily</a>. She volunteered herself and her equally talented husband Val Cohen to do a template in a matter of days.</p>
<p>The clock was ticking. Greg&#8217;s a blogging machine and was anxious to get back in the swing of things on Friday. Getting it together just wasn&#8217;t going to happen, but we pushed on Thursday to get a <a href="http://greginhollywood.com/placeholder.html">placeholder page up</a> in time for Friday, with the full blog launch aimed for Monday.</p>
<p>The placeholder was useful, because it let us get a lot of the behind-the-scenes technical stuff up and running. For one, we set Greg up with <a href="http://www.feedburner.com/">FeedBurner</a>, so that people could sign-up for his feed in advance, as well as sign-up for an email list that FeedBurner also provides. A key point &#8212; we used MyBrand, so that Greg could have the feeds stay in his own domain name, rather than FeedBurner&#8217;s. My article <a href="http://searchengineland.com/stay-master-of-your-feed-domain-10234">Stay Master Of Your Feed Domain</a> explains more about this, and also see FeedBurner&#8217;s <a href="http://www.feedburner.com/fb/a/publishers/mybrand">help page</a> on it. It&#8217;s free &#8212; DO IT!</p>
<p>Since the blog wasn&#8217;t actually live, Greg didn&#8217;t have a feed being produced. No problem. I faked up an RSS feed. You can see it <a href="http://greginhollywood.com/fakefeed.xml">here</a>, and you can easily alter it if working on your own site and in need of a fast feed template. I fed that source feed to FeedBurner, which in turn spit it out under his <a href="http://feeds.greginhollywood.com/greginhollywood">feeds.greginhollywood.com/greginhollywood</a> address.</p>
<p>If feeds are essential, so is <a href="http://twitter.com/">Twitter</a>. Greg <a href="http://twitter.com/greghernandez">has had</a> a Twitter account since last year, but he hasn&#8217;t done much with it. So my wife, <a href="http://twitter.com/lornaharris">Lorna Harris</a>, took Greg under her wing. She spent time teaching him Twitter etiquette, how to do replies and helped him build up to a nice core of 150 followers. She also set-up a <a href="http://twitter.com/greginhollywood">separate account</a> for his blog, one that would provide people with news alerts out of it, rather than Greg&#8217;s personal Twittering. That was easy, too &#8212; <a href="http://twitterfeed.com/">Twitterfeed</a> simply pulls whatever is in his blog feed and puts it out on Twitter.</p>
<p>The placeholder was also a time to test out Greg&#8217;s new AdSense account. And good thing we did. Despite being accepted into the program, AdSense refused to display ads. No idea why. Today, this is still the case. We put in a help request to AdSense asking what was up. That was no help at all. It kicked back a message saying &#8220;we&#8217;re unable to respond personally to this particular message&#8221; and to read some help pages that didn&#8217;t answer the problem. Thanks, AdSense. For the time being, we&#8217;re using a different AdSense account to populate his ads until things can get straightened out. I also got a chuckle that after sending the useless response, AdSense then sent a survey asking &#8220;How&#8217;d we do&#8221; on the message. Not so well.</p>
<p>Since I was already signed into Google, I also made a quick detour to verify his site with <a href="http://www.google.com/webmasters/">Google Webmaster Central</a>. By downloading a simple file, I ensured that Google knew about his site and would report back on any problems down the line. This also let me tell Google that even though the site could be found at either www.greginhollywood.com or greginhollywood.com, it was the non-www version that should be listed as the preferred domain. Since then, a 301 redirect of the www to the non-www has been put in place to further ensure the site doesn&#8217;t somehow come up both ways.</p>
<p>Tracking also went up for the placeholder &#8212; three types. <a href="http://www.google.com/analytics/">Google Analytics</a>, for the nice long-term analytis. <a href="http://blvdstatus.com/">BLVD Status</a> for real-time tracking. And <a href="http://www.quantcast.com/">Quantcast</a>, in case Greg might needs some comparative stats for ad reasons in the future.</p>
<p>The placeholder was also a time to do that essential keyword research. Greg had never really thought about how to describe his blog in a few words, for someone who might be seeking it out. He did have a tagline for his old blog, &#8220;All things pop culture through a gay man&#8217;s eyes&#8221; that he wanted to carry forward to the new one. But that didn&#8217;t incorporate any terms we thought people might be using to seek him out.</p>
<p>Off to the <a href="https://adwords.google.com/select/KeywordToolExternal">Google AdWords Keyword Tool</a> to try some ideas out. We started out with &#8220;gay&#8221; to see what type of results came back. I was dead surprised to get this message back:</p>
<blockquote><p>We&#8217;re sorry, but we&#8217;re unable to generate relevant keywords for this keyword. Please make sure you have entered the keyword correctly. Or, enter another keyword into the box to see related keywords.</p>
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<p>Wow. What&#8217;s up with that? I went back and enabled synonym matching. That brought back matches that weren&#8217;t really synonym matches but instead a list of terms containing &#8220;gay&#8221; that I&#8217;d first sought.</p>
<p>Going down the list, &#8220;gay news&#8221; leaped out. And that was it. Not &#8220;gay celebrities&#8221; or &#8220;gay hollywood,&#8221; terms we&#8217;d thought might be on it. They didn&#8217;t show at all. And when I searched directly for &#8220;gay celebrities,&#8221; still no matches. But &#8220;gay hollywood&#8221; as a direct search did come up &#8212; and in volume that should have had it on the &#8220;gay&#8221; search overall.</p>
<p>I turned to Google Trends for a second opinion, <a href="http://www.google.com/trends?q=gay+hollywood%2Cgay+celebrities%2Cgay+celebrity">checking</a> gay celebrities, gay celebrity and gay hollywood. All seemed to have a healthy amount of volume, so it was title and description time:</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>Greg In Hollywood &#8211; News About Gay Celebrities &amp; Gay Hollywood</strong><br />
Veteran Hollywood reporter Greg Hernandez covers the gay celebrity scene, bringing you the scoop from newsmakers, creative types and keeping you up to date on entertainment, LGBT and political news.</p>
</blockquote>
<p>On the title, we needed the name of his blog, of course. We decided that &#8220;gay celebrities&#8221; read better than &#8220;gay celebrity&#8221; in different variations, so stuck with that. I debated whether I wanted to repeat the word &#8220;gay&#8221; again for &#8220;Gay Hollywood&#8221; but decided it read better to keep it there, plus perhaps it might help with doing well for that exact phrase.</p>
<p>As for the description, the goal here was to stress who Greg was and his background for those doing searches and discovering the site for generic terms for the first time.</p>
<p>From Friday through Sunday, it was time to work on the blog itself. That was down to Kate and Val, putting together a screaming design that says &#8220;Entertainment!&#8221; the minute you see it. One of my favorite parts is the &#8220;Greg Your Way&#8221; box at the top, which incorporates the ways to get the blog other than via web (IE through feeds, email or twitter), plus Greg&#8217;s social presence on Facebook and Twitter.</p>
<p>That box also links over to Greg&#8217;s <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/greginhollywood">new Flickr account</a>, more new pimping for his move. Greg hadn&#8217;t used Flickr before, and I&#8217;ve seen firsthand how putting pictures out there can really help improve a site&#8217;s traffic. I suggested he let anyone use the photos he&#8217;s collected of celebrities over the years for free, as long as they attribute them to his Flickr account or his blog. He went for it. We&#8217;ll see how it goes. But so far, he&#8217;s loving having all his photos organized into different sets like &#8220;Oscars 2009&#8243; and &#8220;Emmys 2008.&#8221;</p>
<p>We also hooked Greg up with a YouTube account, which will get posted to the blog later once he&#8217;s got content there. He hasn&#8217;t shot video before, that that will change soon. He&#8217;s going to get one of those easy point-and-shoot <a href="http://www.theflip.com/">Flip</a> cameras. He does so many interviews that shortly, he should have a great collection of material.</p>
<p>Of course, another hardware change was moving Greg off this tiny Samsung dumb-phone he&#8217;s had for years. He&#8217;s all about the iPhone now, checking his mail, rigged to upload to Flickr, able to Twitter and soon able to blog via it. He&#8217;s often out at various Hollywood parties and events, so he really needed a more capable device. And after reviewing the various smartphone options with him, the iPhone was perfect for his sometimes less-than-tech-savvy ways.</p>
<p>Greg was also without a computer, having to leave behind his laptop with the Daily News. I figured he had two choices &#8212; one of the cool and surprisingly cheap netbooks out there, so he could be mobile with it, or a Mac for the simplicity. We looked at various types, but it was no contest. He swooped up a Macbook 13&#8243;, and now you can&#8217;t pry him off of it.</p>
<p>Sunday evening was crash time. Kate and Val moved across the new templates, and Greg started making live a number of the posts he&#8217;d written. We had a maddening time when the WordPress installation refused to display images that were uploaded, something we&#8217;re still working on. As a backup, we pulled from his Flickr account &#8212; which caused more maddening issues when line breaks we tried to do wouldn&#8217;t happen. A hugely annoying thing about WordPress is that the &#8220;HTML&#8221; view for a post is anything but. It doesn&#8217;t show the actual HTML that sometimes is being used to render a page. Hey WordPress, show me the damn HTML.</p>
<p>To help with the Flickr pics, we installed the <a href="http://tgardner.net/wordpress-flickr-manager/">Flickr Manager Plugin</a>. This integrates Greg&#8217;s Flickr collection right within his blog. He can pull code for any of his pics and add images with a few clicks.</p>
<p>Speaking of plugins, we also used the <a href="http://www.google.com/support/feedburner/bin/answer.py?answer=78483&amp;topic=13252">Feedburner Feedsmith Plugin</a>, which makes it easy to ensure those eight billion feed URLs that WordPress spits out all get redirected to a common FeedBurner URL using Greg&#8217;s own domain.</p>
<p>Time for another plug-in, <a href="http://wordpress.org/extend/plugins/all-in-one-seo-pack/">All-In-One SEO Pack</a>. This is useful in so many ways.</p>
<p>For one, the blog title you can set in WordPress&#8217;s settings page? That doesn&#8217;t just get used for your HTML title tag on the home page. It also gets appended to every title tag in the site, along with the post title. That meant Greg was going to have long titles like this:</p>
<blockquote><p>Who&#8217;s that Oscar guy? Meet Christopher McDaniel!  &#8211;  Greg In Hollywood &#8211; News About Gay Celebrities &amp; Gay Hollywood</p>
</blockquote>
<p>There&#8217;s some debate on whether a blog&#8217;s name (or a site&#8217;s name) should be in the title tag of each page on a site. I think it depends on the particular brand. In Greg&#8217;s case, I felt it would be a distraction for those finding him through search. So using the plug-in, we were able to override this and give him nice short titles like this:</p>
<blockquote><p>Who&#8217;s that Oscar guy? Meet Christopher McDaniel!</p>
</blockquote>
<p>The plugin also ensures you have a unique meta description tag on each page. Unfortunately, it doesn&#8217;t allow you to add this tag:</p>
<blockquote><p>meta name=&#8221;robots&#8221; content=&#8221;noydir,noodp&#8221;</p>
</blockquote>
<p>What&#8217;s that do? It prevents Google and other search engines from using a title and description of your site as listed in the Open Directory and Yahoo from using a title and description from the Yahoo Directory. See my <a href="http://searchengineland.com/meta-robots-tag-101-blocking-spiders-cached-pages-more-10665">Meta Robots Tag 101: Blocking Spiders, Cached Pages &amp; More</a> for more about the why and how about all that.</p>
<p>Aside from plugins, another structural change was to make his permalinks use the post names to form the URLs. I went through this on the Search Engine Land launch. Keywords in the URL field are a small factor, but if people link to use using your URL rather than your page title, then you get some anchor text love for those keywords that might help further. Plus, the words in the URL can help reinforce clickthrough. Rather than use one of the WordPress defaults like:</p>
<blockquote><p>http://domain/year/month/day/sample-post/</p>
</blockquote>
<p>I copied what we use at Search Engine Land in the Permalinks setting of the WordPress installation. Specifically:</p>
<blockquote><p>/%postname%-%post_id%</p>
</blockquote>
<p>Why? I didn&#8217;t think the date helped that much, and it makes the URL longer, when shorter URLs <a href="http://janeandrobot.com/post/canonical-url-canonicalization-domain.aspx">tend to be better</a> for various reasons.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s much more that we did that I&#8217;m sure I&#8217;m forgetting. But it&#8217;s late now, and sleep beckons. More to be done, too. Custom 404 page needs to go up, &#8220;Back Issues&#8221; archives will be coming and there&#8217;s the inevitable things that get forgotten or overlooked that I&#8217;m sure will turn up. Still, Greg&#8217;s back with a new home to blog from &#8212; and we all wish him the best of luck going forward.</p>
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		<title>Detlev Johnson 301 Redirects To Disa Johnson</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 13 Jan 2009 09:51:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many in the search marketing industry personally know or know of long-time vet Detlev Johnson. He&#8217;s been a personal friend of mine for over 10 years. And boy, did he have a surprise in store for me when we met up at SMX East last October! Detlev is undergoing a sex change &#8212; or a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Many in the search marketing industry personally know or know of long-time vet <a href="http://www.searchreturn.com/">Detlev Johnson</a>. He&#8217;s been a personal friend of mine for over 10 years. And boy, did he have a surprise in store for me when we met up at SMX East last October! Detlev is undergoing a sex change &#8212; or a gender change, as his doctor would say.</p>
<p>As Detlev explained to me, he was born with both male and female characteristics. At age 14, he made the hard decision to live life as a man. Now much older, he&#8217;s decided that he really wants to be a woman.</p>
<p>Wow &#8211; talk about a life changing experience! It&#8217;s also one that Detlev is really comfortable with. For the first time in the years I&#8217;ve known him, he finally seems settled in a way that I can&#8217;t describe &#8211; as if he&#8217;s doing what he&#8217;s been wanting to do for ages.</p>
<p>Detlev&#8217;s also pretty open about the change he&#8217;s going through. It&#8217;s not an instant one. He&#8217;s going through hormone therapy right now, plus his appearance has been changing. Along with that has been a name change &#8211; he&#8217;s Disa now. Or while he&#8217;s technically still a he, getting behind the change, I&#8217;ll be calling her Disa from this point forward.</p>
<p>Curious to understand more? At <a href="http://searchmarketingexpo.com/west">SMX West</a>, I&#8217;m going to do an informal Q&amp;A with Disa. This will run from 6pm to 7pm on Wednesday, February 11. You don&#8217;t have to have a conference pass to attend this session, either. I&#8217;ll post the exact room here in the future. Come with your questions, an open mind, and don&#8217;t be shy. Disa isn&#8217;t!</p>
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		<title>Dave Naylor&#8217;s New MySpace Site, TickMe</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Dec 2006 18:38:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Dave Naylor has launched his own MySpace type of place, TickMe. I think he did it solely to be in the Top 10 Male league. Please someone make me less pathetic: I have a tick ratio of 0 percent. And c&#8217;mon Matt, sign-up. You know you can totally knock Dave right out of there.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Dave Naylor has launched his own MySpace type of place,<br />
<a href="http://www.tickme.com/">TickMe</a>. I think he did it solely to be in<br />
the <a href="http://www.tickme.com/tick_league.html">Top 10 Male league</a>.<br />
Please someone make <a href="http://www.tickme.com/member/dannysullivan.html">me</a> less pathetic:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.tickme.com/member/dannysullivan.html"><br />
<img src="http://www.tickme.com/images/banner.gif" alt="TickMe Banner" border="0" width="300" height="75"/></a></p>
<p>I have a tick ratio of 0 percent. And c&#8217;mon<br />
<a href="http://mattcutts.com/blog/">Matt</a>, sign-up. You know you can totally<br />
knock Dave right out of there.</p>
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		<title>National Coming Out Day In The US</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Oct 2006 21:23:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[My good friend Greg is blogging today about it being National Coming Out day today, telling his story of coming out of the closet as a gay man. Greg is one of several close friends that has come out to me over the years, his being most dramatic in dropping the bombshell on my while I was [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>My good friend Greg is blogging today about it being <a href="http://www.hrc.org/">National Coming Out</a> day today, telling <a href="http://www.insidesocal.com/outinhollywood/2006/10/coming_out_day_gregs_story.html">his story</a> of coming out of the closet as a gay man. Greg is one of several close friends that has come out to me over the years, his being most dramatic in dropping the bombshell on my while I was trying to sail a very small boat in busy Newport Harbor. A bit more on that below, plus some personal words for those who may not know or accept gays and lesbians about the pain I&#8217;ve seen these friends go through as they&#8217;ve stayed inside the closet for various reasons.</p>
<p>Every gay person has their coming out stories. I&#8217;ve always wanted to start a site for the opposite, friends of gays to share how they learned. There&#8217;s probably a site like that out there somewhere. I think we have fun or interesting stories to tell as well.</p>
<p>My first friend to come out to me was my college roommate. We&#8217;d gotten thrown together in our freshman year in an on campus apartment. The following year, we moved to the campus trailer park. Close quarters, but cheap rent.</p>
<p>About midway through our sophomore year, my friend was acting very odd. He&#8217;d not been sleeping well, told me he was going to counseling and just didn&#8217;t seem right. Eventually, he told me he&#8217;d been having therapy and realized he needed to come out. He was incredibly nervous about telling me. I didn&#8217;t have a problem with it.</p>
<p>I mentioned those close quarters. Being gay doesn&#8217;t mean you want to sleep with everyone you know of the same sex, any more than it does for heterosexuals. My friend was very worried I&#8217;d be freaked out especially with us living in small quarters. I think my response was something like &#8220;You were my friend before, so why&#8217;s that going to change. And you didn&#8217;t jump me before, so I&#8217;m not worried about that either.&#8221;</p>
<p>My friend wasn&#8217;t happy just coming out. He became very active to head up the Gay &amp; Lesbian Student Union on campus. That lead to a funny story. I was also editor-in-chief of our campus newspaper. Our respective positions meant we had to go before the student government for yearly funding. He gave his speech supporting a funding request; I gave my own. The meeting ended, and we went grocery shopping.</p>
<p>In the store, I bumped into the student body president. I shouldn&#8217;t stereotype in a post against stereotypes, but he was right out of central casting for buff, manly fraternity boy (I&#8217;d say frat boy, but a good friend who was in a fraternity one said that&#8217;s bad. &#8220;Would you call your country a cun&#8230;&#8221; You can fill in the rest).</p>
<p>We talked, then my roommate came up the aisle and asked me if I wanted a particular brand of cereal. Like a movie, I watched the student body president look at him, then at me, then at the cereal, then I could imagine all the dots being connected in his head as an odd and knowing look came over his face. Yep, our secret gay love was now out of the closet &#8212; not!</p>
<p>I always get a good laugh thinking about that story. Greg came out to me an entirely different way. First we were coworkers, and soon after he moved in with me and another friend to share an apartment in Newport Beach. For two years we lived together, me never knowing he was gay. He kept it well hid. Hey Greg, the girlfriends do tend to confuse people you know &#8212; especially those that after you break up with them declare on our answering machine that they&#8217;ll never leave until you get home (A tip to those trying this tactic. It doesn&#8217;t work if you leave that message, then give up by the time we get home an hour later. It&#8217;s just not sincere!).</p>
<p>Several years later &#8212; me now living still in Newport but with my wife &#8212; I had a day off from work. Greg was meeting me to hang out, and I suggested we go sailing. I rented a small 14 foot boot to tool around Newport Harbor in.</p>
<p>Newport Harbor is where I learned to sail, and it&#8217;s a tough place to do it. The winds are always shifting, and there are boats constantly moving. To make matters worse, the boat rental place is next to the Balboa Island ferries &#8212; they constantly move back and forth, always have the right away, and you have to dodge them.</p>
<p>There wasn&#8217;t much wind this day, so we weren&#8217;t getting far from the ferries. Motorized boats were everywhere, but I did the best we could. Greg had mentioned he wanted to talk about something, but he hadn&#8217;t gotten to that. So in the small talk, I asked him what was going on with another friend and joked I thought he might be gay. He was, Greg said &#8212; and so was he, he told me.</p>
<p>I was completely shocked. Not upset &#8212; just shocked that I hadn&#8217;t seen it coming. I may have even dropped the tiller. In short order, I was trying to get the boat under control. Greg exaggerates it &#8212; we never were going to head out into the Pacific. We barely had any wind. But I did spend an intense 10 minutes tacking as best I could to get past the ferry and back to the dock, so we could talk properly with solid land underfoot!</p>
<p>Greg was transformed when he came out to his friends. He became more confident, happier and something just felt right that I could never put my finger on. That wrong thing, of course, was that he was having to hide is true identity all those years.</p>
<p>That leads me to my third friend, another one from college that I was very close to. Like Greg, he&#8217;d had girlfriends but never anyone serious. About four years ago, he finally told me he was gay. I was thrilled. I think my exclamation was something like &#8220;excellent&#8221; or &#8220;that&#8217;s great.&#8221; Greg&#8217;s gaydar had actually nailed him as gay years before this. My excitement was because as with Greg, it always felt like something wasn&#8217;t quite right. I was excited because he wasn&#8217;t going to have to hide himself any longer, nor should he. Since then, he&#8217;s lost weight, become more confident and just been an all around happier person.</p>
<p>More recently, a fourth good friend I know also came out more publicly. In this case, she didn&#8217;t come out to me specifically. Instead, the clues were there for anyone who knew to look. When she turned up at a public event with her girlfriend for the first time, I was a great thing to see. She&#8217;s always happy to begin with, but her smile was even bigger in being out and about with someone she loves.</p>
<p>These are all good friends. They are all good people. It has pained me to see them have to keep some part of them back, to not be complete out of fear or concern of not being accepted. I have no problem with homosexuality. Clearly, many people still do. I hope those that do can be more open, to understand the pain fellow human beings feel when they have to remain closeted. At the very least, understand that they are not gay people &#8212; they are real people with feelings who happen to be gay. They are godparents to my children; good friends I&#8217;ve known for years and people I hate to see feeling excluded in so many ways such as with <a href="http://daggle.com/051222-135224.html">marriage laws</a>.</p>
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		<title>Say It Ain&#8217;t So, Dave (But We Won&#8217;t Believe You)</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Aug 2006 09:16:14 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m with Greg. Despite what you say, Dave, that sure looks like you running naked around the roundabout.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>I&#8217;m <a href="http://general.webguerrilla.com/naked-naylor/">with Greg</a>.  Despite what <a href="http://www.davidnaylor.co.uk/archives/2006/08/18/not-daven-nude/">you  say</a>, Dave, that sure <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFGjjYiBtvY"> looks like you</a> running naked around the roundabout.</p>
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		<title>Out In Hollywood Blog</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Jul 2006 18:55:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[One of my best friends, Greg Hernandez, is now blogging. Interested in the intersection of gays and gay issues in Hollywood. His Out In Hollywood blog is covering the scene. NOTE: Greg has now moved to Greg In Hollywood.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>One of my best friends, Greg Hernandez, is now blogging. Interested in the  intersection of gays and gay issues in Hollywood. His <a href="http://insidesocal.com/outinhollywood/">Out In Hollywood</a> blog is  covering the scene.</p>
<p>NOTE: Greg has now moved to <a href="http://greginhollywood.com/">Greg In Hollywood</a>.</p>
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		<title>Kourosh Makes Good At Wired</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Jul 2006 00:43:10 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Danny Sullivan</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Score one for UC Irvine, my alma mater, and the New University student newspaper where I spent far too many hours slaving away. Kourosh Karimkhany was on the staff with me for several years at the paper &#8212; and now he&#8217;s just been named general manager of Wired News, which is being revitalized as part [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Score one for <a href="http://www.uci.edu/">UC Irvine</a>, my alma mater, and  the <a href="http://www.newu.uci.edu/">New University</a> student newspaper  where I spent far too many hours slaving away. Kourosh Karimkhany was on the  staff with me for several years at the paper &#8212; and now he&#8217;s just been named  general manager of Wired News, which is being revitalized as part of its <a href="http://www.longtail.com/the_long_tail/2006/07/and_to_cap_off_.html"> merger</a> back with Wired Magazine. Zot, zot, zot, Kourosh!</p>
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